How to Use People’s Perception of You to Your Advantage

how to use people's perceptions of you

This article contains the one thing I wish I could tell everybody. In a perfect world everyone would accept it and understand it because it is applicable in all areas of our lives. People trust what they see. This has many implications for us. One implication is that how people see you is important, despite the fact that many of us are taught not to care what others think. This “logic” we’ve been taught all our lives is flawed. How people perceive you in your adult life can make you or break you. It influences your job opportunities, the positions you are offered, your pay scale, how you are treated, the type of friends you attract and what type of partner you attract.

I’d like to tell you how you can use the fact that people trust what they see to your advantage.

How to use people's perception of you

People trust what they see, so regardless of who you are, you are to people what you choose for them to see. That means if you come across as confident, people will believe that you are confident. If you come across as professional, people will believe you are professional. This goes for a multitude of contexts, whether it is business or in your personal life.

Perception is everything. A person’s perception of you is formed by hasty conclusions. Conclusions they jump to when they have their first interactions with you. I’ll take it one step further and say that who you actually are doesn’t matter to people. I say this because they don’t see you for you. You can put yourself forward to be anything that you strive to be and people will most often not question that. You are to people who they want you to be (as they perceive you). As long as you don’t do anything to the contrary of that perception you will stay that person that others perceive you to be. Each person will have a completely different opinion or perception about you. This is true because they are influenced by what you choose to show them and their own perspective and experiences.  Make sure that the side of you that you show the world is the one you don’t mind them building perceptions around.

I remember when I was studying Psychology, during the first year, I would observe the students coming in to the lecture hall. I remember one day I saw boys walking in with their baggy pants almost hanging down to their knees. They would sit and talk and giggle in the back of the class whilst the lecturer was trying to impart some great knowledge on us. This doesn’t seem like a big deal but it hit me that day: How can you take yourself seriously as a psychologist when you are not paying attention in a lecture? My perception of you as a psychologist (if you had to walk into a session acting the way you do and dressing the way you do) would be dismal. I would not want to go sit in your office and I will not have any faith in your skills. I doubt that your help will be of value. You’d just sit there with your baggy pants, giggling at me.

So as the example I gave shows, perceptions can harm your image. Making people perceive you in the best possible way can work to your advantage.  Most often the people we look up to seem to have their lives together, only because we perceive them that way. This is partly because they only put forward their best. We do not see their time of doubt, their confusion and their lack of self esteem.

You might not be confident, but you can present yourself as being confident. Body language that people perceive as confidence is; standing up straight, having your shoulders back, not looking down or collapsing in on yourself. You can speak clearly and make sure that you have even pitch and volume in your voice throughout your sentences and cut out all the doubtful phrases in your vocabulary. Such as; “i think”, “um” and “I’m not sure” and people will perceive you to be confident despite what you feel inside. If you go into the outside world like that every day, you will internalise it and it’ll become part of who you are. The same goes for telephonic or email interactions.

It may be hard to pin point which changes are necessary to portray a certain characteristic. I would suggest that you look up videos to study the mannerisms and characteristics of people who you admire. Jot down what makes you perceive them the way you do (successful, confident, in control or sexy). Then use your notes to incorporate those into your mannerisms and note the changes in how others treat you and respond to you.

At the end of the day, everybody we see or know, we know as we want to know them (because of our preconceptions) or as they have come across to us. Who they are does not matter much. In extreme cases, people have partners who are serial killers but they did not see it because their perception of them did not allow that conflicting information to be seen. But other people might say:”Well yeah, he does kind of look like a serial killer, I could have seen that coming.” (that’s a whole other article). My advice is to take note of the fact that people trust what they see and use this your benefit. Whilst not being malicious of course (we are all nice people here).

Have you ever had someone perceive you negatively, as something that you’re not? Could you overcome it? Comment below, I like hearing from you.


The Things You’re Doing To Make Men Disrespect You

This is why men disrespect you

So at one point or another you’ve wondered why you keep attracting the wrong men. When it comes to relationships I find that most women buy into the idea that mister right is out there and you will find him and he will understand you and what you want and need. I’m here to tell you that the idea of mister right is a fairy tale and that most men have it in them to be “mister right” not just “mister right now”. I would also like you to know that you’re the one determining which “mister” he is.

You do not set the benchmark for how you’re treated consciously

Stop being the victim of disrespectful men who do not show up on time for dates, cheat, play games and get away with waffling in and out of a relationship as they see fit. People will treat you how you allow them to treat you, you set the benchmark. You determine whether a guy steps up to make you happy or whether he is just along for the ride in the short term. You might not currently set the benchmark on how you’re treated consciously. I’m hoping after reading this article you will look at the way men perceive you and realize why you aren’t being treated how you deserve to be treated.

You are self sacrificing

The key to earning respect is demanding it, you demand it by setting standards. Women tend to be self sacrificing, we will make concessions, allowances and compromise because that is the polite and caring thing to do. What most don’t realise is that in a new relationship the concessions could easily come across as a lack of standards. You need to set standards because they act as rules that people should follow when it comes to dealing with you. When people deal with you in a certain way it makes you feel valued and respected. Your standards could include that a man open the door for you, reply to texts immediately after they have been read, show up on time for dates and contact you as soon as he realises he is going to be late. These standards differ among women.

You make concessions for people

The reason why it is important for you to set standards for yourself is because standards prescribe to other people how it is that you want to be treated and it’ll show other people that you value yourself. The best way to get people to treat you with respect is to show them that you respect others and that you respect yourself. That’s why its important avoid making concessions for people. You might think that you’re doing it to avoid confrontation or you want to be drama free and therefore you allow people to treat you how they want instead of how you would like them to treat you.

Standards can be quite useless if you choose to make concessions with them and not have them adhere to everyone that you come across. If you let some man get away with not meeting you on time for a date or not replying to your messages when you know they’ve read it (or whatever standard that it is that you choose to set), that person is going to perceive you as the person who just lets things slide. That if someone doesn’t adhere to your standards its okay, because the person that you are making exceptions for does not know that they are the exception.

The Things

You keep the peace

I find that woman are scared of confrontation. They don’t want to say “No, you can’t treat me that way” or “No you cant just come and go as you please”. They feel like they need to be the ones who are keep the peace. The drama free, happy-go-lucky, fun people in order to attract a suitable partner. It’s those woman who do not command respect (regardless of the reason) who do not receive it.

In the dating world women are so scared to chase of potential partners that they allow the men to do what they want and  treat them how the men see fit. Now I ask these women: “What is it that you are protecting when you’re allowing people to treat you like they want to treat you?” You are only setting yourself up for a bigger failure in the long run if you make concessions or neglect your standards because you might as well set your standards early on, find the people that are going to adhere to them and move on if those people decide not to. Instead of being stuck in a long, disrespectful, unhappy and eventually dead relationship.

You make yourself sexually available

I’ve also realised that in the dating world, women think that they need to make themselves seem sexually available to men in order to capture their interest. What are you doing out there dressing provocatively and sending nude pics of themselves to men?  Please hear me, by doing this you are giving the man access to your body without requiring the guy to commit to you. That person is not going to be your “mister right”. You’re showing them that they don’t need to measure up to something in order to get into your pants.

It is possible to build a relationship on something that doesn’t involve having a man being sexually aroused by you. Surely you can be interesting enough by using your mind and humour instead of your body. As soon as you get naked for a man who doesn’t measure up, you lose his respect. By all means be sexy, be attractive but don’t be trashy. Perception is key and if your put yourself forward as trashy that is what you are prescribing for yourself. Trash begets trash.

In hindsight this article could’ve been called : “Standards… Get some”. So my advice would be, take a long hard look at what it is that you want in a man and prescribe that every man you meet treat you that way. If they don’t then you know they are not the person for you, so move on swiftly. If a man sees you have standards he will crave to adhere to that. If he wants to be in your life and he wants more than something quick and meaningless then he will actually keep up to your standards, no matter how absurd these standards might seem.

Do you have any thoughts on the subject? Please share them with me down below.

How Not to Be Lonely

Stop the cycle of loneliness & isolation. Be popular

So how often do you feel lonely, unpopular and just generally down about the prospects of building meaningful relationships with other people? You might lack the confidence to go out alone and put yourself into situations where you could meet new people. Starting conversations with strangers can be complicated because we don’t know if we’ll be received well and have the same interests as the interesting person standing in line with us.

I’ve been noticing that these feelings are quite popular and prevalent today (and can’t help to think that the internet could be hindering our social skills rather than helping). For example, in my house it’s common to spend a few minutes of face time with the family before we all get onto our computers, cell phones and tablets. It seems increasingly difficult (or people are more reluctant) to spend time with others. For some, social interaction can be taxing at times and it’s much easier to unwind after a hard day at work by messing about on a phone because with a phone you don’t have to think, consider, talk and sometimes “put up with” people and their nuances.

Most would argue that the internet cuts across borders and brings people together. We do have our social media and all these wonderful messaging apps after all. Yet the internet takes away the need for human interaction which in turn can influence our ability to communicate with people in the real word. The result is an increased lack of confidence to approach people in real life situations and a lack of social skills.

Human interaction is a basic need each of us need to fulfill. It can lift you mood, increase your self worth and confidence. A lack of human interaction can lead to feelings of loneliness, unpopularity and can mess with your sense of belonging. Most of us see other people in our day to day lives but find the idea of approaching them absurd for all the above mentioned reasons and whole lot more.

This general sense of isolation that we have become complacent with in the past is one of the things I felt I needed to overcome. I craved having some influence in other’s lives and to perhaps make some friends along the way. So I came up with 3 things to implement in my life to increase the amount of meaningful social interactions I have and perhaps increase my popularity. Here was the game plan I came up with. I think I stumbled across the recipe for world peace. (Okay maybe that is over exaggerating but it does work well).

 How not to be lonely

The solution:

1. Create meaningful interactions with people

Aim to make your common interactions more meaningful. Its helpful to keep in mind that the person on the other end of the phone or behind the counter at the store is a person, with a life and a whole different set of experiences to yours. You don’t have to spend more time than you would normally spend around people. Our schedules don’t really allow for changes that include more time with others anyway.

You can make your interactions more meaningful by practicing looking people in the eye when handing them your cash at the store. Ask “How are you?” or “How has your day been?” or pay the stranger a compliment if you feel there’s something worthwhile to mention. This advice might seem silly to some but it’s a small step to opening yourself up to others and increasing your popularity.

Friendliness is greatly appreciated by most and will foster confidence in yourself. By initiating conversation you’re opening yourself up to possible negative reactions (but at the end of the day if you’re met by a bad attitude you can just point and laugh at the grumpy person). By actively starting conversations I’ve found that most people love talking about themselves and appreciate others showing an interest in them.

By creating meaningful interactions with people, people in places that you frequent are more likely to remember you and this in turn will have an effect on the way that people react to you in the future.

2. Give a little (with the emphasis on “little”)

I’m not suggesting being selfless with your time, money and effort to the extent that you burden yourself. You’re allowed to be selective with the resources (eg. time and money) you give away. Most of us have full plates already and the last thing being charitable should make you feel, is burdened. So decide what you could possibly do for someone to make their lives a little easier and to what degree you’re willing to commit to doing things for others.

I’m giving you permission to say “No” to dropping your colleague off at the buss stop that is not en route to your house after work when all you want to do is go home and nap. A good way to start giving a little is, for example, carrying someone’s groceries to their car or making someone a cup of coffee. I, for instance, had made study notes earlier in the year and came across a student who had failed the module and would have to redo it, so I go into contact with her and offered to send her my notes.

Small gestures will make others react more positively to you. Good intentions go far in the way of reaching out to people and will make people open up to you to in a positive way. (There is a fine line between giving a little and being suck up so watch your balance there).

3. Let people know you’re thinking of them

People react well to others taking an interest in them and a short message or phone call goes a long way in building friendships. So take a second to imagine how you would react if you got a message on Facebook from a long lost friend to tell you that they had this crazy memory and reminisced about the past a bit. You’d probably be delightfully taken aback that someone you had forgot existed said they were thinking of you.

Most people go through their lives feeling isolated, unworthy, unloved, unpopular or unrecognized. Some people who I admire and look up struggle with feelings like these and the only possible explanation is that they have no way to know that people look up to them, think of them or love them. Stop the cycle of loneliness and isolation and reach out to people you find noteworthy.

What are your tips and tricks for increasing your popularity and avoiding feelings of isolation? Do you struggle with starting conversations with people? Please share your thoughts and ideas.

Common Interview Questions and How to Answer Them

Common interview questions and how to answer them

I’ve written articles about interviews and how to prepare for them before. I think the reason why interviews get so much attention on this site is because they are door to your career and terrifying for most. I thought it would be helpful to give you some common interview questions and suggestions about answering them so that you can prepare your answers in advance and be a interview superstar.

The 5 common questions are:

Common interview questions

1. “Tell me about yourself.”

The common misconception candidates have about this question is that you’re supposed to give an answer that entails details about your personal self. This open ended question used to invoke the greatest fear in me straight after school. I have subsequently come to know that the question should actually be interpreted as: “What have you done with your life after school?”. Easier right? Less vague. You’re welcome.

Your answer should include a brief time line detailing your education, work experience and accomplishments. Also elaborate on the reasoning behind your comings and goings from employment, projects or contracts.

My answer will go something like this: ” After completing my senior certificate at Windsor House Academy based in Kempton Park, I decided to study Psychology at University of Pretoria, after two years I had decided to study through correspondence with UNISA to build up work experience whilst studying. My first position was as a data capturer at an office automation company. My position ensured that customers were billed for copy charges made on printing machines at their premises, thus generating revenue for the service department. The contract expired after 6 months as I was hired as a temp whilst an employee was on maternity leave. There were no other vacancies within the company so I had to move on. I then decided to purchase a pie company situated in Greenstone mall with money that I had inherited years before…”

But let me not bore you with details of my employment history. I’m sure you get what I mean by brief but detailed by the example above.

2. “What are your strengths?”

Yet again its best to keep to your work related strengths. Try stay away from the usual buzz words, because they make interviewers tune out. Using buzz words is the equivalent of not answering the question at all. Using buzz words only speak to the fact that you have no real strengths and are fairly unimaginative. An example of a bad set of strengths would be: Person orientated, friendly, organized and good telephone communication skills.

Try tailor your answer to things that you feel might make you different from the other candidates that they have seen. Think of times that you have problem solved in the past. Maybe you have the ability to appease difficult customers, keeping to deadlines with a sense of urgency, the ability to brainstorm a variety of new ideas, networking capabilities or maybe you have existing relationships with key role players that might be of interest to the new company. Don’t be shy to elaborate by providing examples of where you have been awesome in the past.

3. “What are your weaknesses?”

This too, is a trick question, as I have mentioned in a previous article, it is not your job to point out your flaws to the hiring company. You are advertising yourself and pointing out flaws is not what you are there to do. (Ever heard of pleading the 5th?) The best way to answer this question is by looking at your weaknesses and turning them into something completely redundant and insignificant so that the weakness does not influence your likelihood of being hired.

For example, a good answer would be something like “I get annoyed with people who do not do tasks as and when they promise, because it interferes with my work flow and deadlines but I manage it by following up with friendly reminders of reports or documentation due via e-mail or telephone.” So by answering in this way, your weakness is something that you can acknowledge and know how to manage and it isn’t a deal breaker for the interviewers.

An example of an answer to stay away from is something like: “I have serious anger issues but i’m working on it” . When working on your answers during your preparation for an interview, keep in mind that you don’t want your prospective employer to think that you are erratic or unpredictable in any way. You should be the drama free and mature candidate, which will make you the obvious choice.

4. “Why should we hire you?”

An interviewer who asks you this question is trying to see what it is that makes you stand out from the rest. Some candidates think that this calls for a comparison but my advice is as follows; Beware not to put any other candidates down by saying that you are better than them in some way. I find this question is best answered if you combine your strengths with the requirements of the job and state how these strengths can benefit the company. A good answer (by using the strengths as mentioned above) would be: “By approaching the tasks I do with a sense of urgency I can assure you that I will get my work done in time without neglecting quality of work. My relationships with government officials can give this company a step up in the market. I will definitely handle all customers from this company with dignity and work my charm to retain customers as best I can.”

5. “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

The nice thing about this question is that you do not have to be specific, in fact it is best not to be specific (It’s very tempting to answer “I see myself living on a beach drinking cocktails and living off the land”). If you are in an interview for a sales position and say you see yourself as the Human Resource manager in 5 years the interviewer might question your career choices and wonder why you are applying for a position in sales. It could also make them fear for their job if they are the human resource manager at the moment. Make sure that your 5 year goal is easily obtainable but not where you are right now and also include the fact that you see yourself at the company that you are applying for a position with now.

Answer this question by drawing a broad overview of where you would like to be. For example, you could mention that you’d like to be a valuable employee in this company in a position with a high level of responsibility where you get to work in a team. This is a broad goal that is obtainable and isn’t specific as to which department you would have to work for.

So those are the big five interview questions that I have come across. I hope you found this helpful.

The more time you spend on preparing your interview questions, the better your answers will be and the more confident you will be in the interview.

Which interview questions have you come across that were hard to answer? Maybe I can give you tips and we can share notes. Have you got interview tips for me? Please leave your responses in the comment section below.

How to Prepare for an Interview

How to prepare for an interview

I’ve been on both sides of an interview table and I think it’s safe to assume that no one likes interviews. The interviewer has seen about 5 candidates today, all of which don’t feel like the right fit for the position. Some candidates don’t answer questions directly, avoid them by giving irrelevant answers or (my favourite) answer questions with questions. In my experience, sometimes getting information out of a candidate is like trying to squeeze water out of a rock.

As the candidate, interviews suck because you’re sitting opposite a panel of people staring at you bright eyed in anticipation waiting for you to sell yourself. I bet our “favourite” part is the fact that there are no practice rounds to meet with the people who could change your life forever.

Here are my tips on what to do before an interview to ensure a successful interview:

 How to prepare for an interview
1.     Do Your Research

It’s helpful to view your interview as an exam, you are being tested after all. You wouldn’t feel comfortable walking into an exam unprepared now would you? Take time to prepare answers for the common interview questions. Write your answers down and study them. Yes, there might be some questions that you wouldn’t know to prepare for but at least you will have some “go to” sentences floating around at the time of your interview for you to grab at with ease.

I remember an interview where someone had asked what my likes and dislikes are. Even though I am in-some-sort-of touch with myself and will usually know what it is that I like and dislike, the question threw me off because I hadn’t prepared for it (I was so nervous I couldn’t tell my left from my right). I sat there, blank faced, digging into the darkest corners of my soul to find some resemblance of an answer. “Food, I like food… I think.” The next step in your preparation will involve Google (AKA my best friend, tutor and study partner), so hop on there and research the company that called you in for an interview. You should be looking for an outline of the services they offer, mission statements, mottoes and values. Knowledge is power and the more you know about the company and what they value, the more you can be sure to include mutual interests in your interview answers. For instance, if you look on-line and see the company’s website have words that emphasizes a “person orientated” approach to business, you will be sure to mention that you are good at working with people, tending to their needs and you’d mold some of your answers that you’ve prepare in advance to include things relevant to the “person orientated” approach. Similarly, knowing what services the company offers shows the interviewer that you show interest in the company and what they do. This makes you a better candidate because it creates the impression that you’ve done your homework and that you are not just looking for a company to pay you money regardless of what they do.

 2.     Create Practice Opportunities

Nervousness can cloud even the brightest of minds and my remedy for nervousness is practice. My theory is that; if you’ve successfully participated in one interview you’ll be more confident in the next. Applying for jobs that are in a lower salary bracket or that require less experience than you actually have can give you an opportunity to practice your interview skills in an environment where you don’t have your dream job on the line. You can also go home after these interviews and analyse what contributed to their outcomes. Ask yourself questions like: Did you talk to much? Did you go off topic? Which answers really impressed the interviewers? Did they ask any questions that you didn’t prepare for before hand?

3.      Work on Your Confidence

Confidence is a big factor in an interview because you are selling yourself to the company. You’re essentially trying to make it viable for them to spend their money on your salary month after month. If you don’t have confidence in yourself, you aren’t giving them the opportunity to have confidence in you. Just as a sales person, you won’t be highlighting your (the product’s) faults, it’s not your job to highlight where your shortfalls are. You are there to promote what you can do, you in all your glory. Please believe that anything you can’t do right now isn’t a barrier, it’s just something that you can’t do YET. We all have the capability to learn. Job seekers need to know that the interviewers are looking for the best fit, not the perfect fit. Often times interviewers do not know what the best fit is going to look like, so it could easily by you. Don’t try to hard to be what you think they want. If you do not get the job, you would’ve failed pretending to be the person you thought they want, when the actual you would’ve been the best candidate. Another mind blowing revelation that came to light this past month, through conversations with a friend, is that companies hire people. They do not hire a skill or a qualification. They are looking for a person, a personality. So your best chance is to bring your personality with when you go to your interview. Maybe you are quirky, sarcastic, straight forward, a bit of a ditz or clown, bring that with you, it has it’s place too because it is naturally you. Personality, potential and capability will beat skills and qualification hands down most of the time. You wouldn’t want to be working with people who don’t appreciate or respect your personality anyway. With preparation, practice and confidence on your side you will go anywhere you want to go. Preparation is the polish that will allow your diamond to shine (Corny thought of the day). Remember, you are the best you there is, you need to get to the comfortable enough so that you can optimally display who you are and create an awesome first impression. What are your preparations tips and tricks? Please share them below, I like hearing from you.

3 Things Being Retrenched Taught Me


So earlier this month I was called into my boss’ office and told that there was “very very bad news”. Our regional branch office (the one I’m employed with) is closing down and that I, along with my other colleague, should start looking for other employment immediately as the office will stop operating on the 31st of January 2015. So at first I thought: “Wow universe, first Monday of the year and you kick me in the face. Thanks.”

Upon sitting down at my desk, after a conversation filled with motivational words with my other half, I looked up at my hand written pink post-it note on my cubicle wall that reads:”Do what you love and the rest will follow”. This post-it was written by me a couple of months ago to remind myself that just because I’m not paid for doing what I love shouldn’t stop me from doing it on my own time. This sentence has led me to start this blog and inspired some changes within myself.

So here is what being retrenched taught me:

3 things being retrenched taught me

1     This retrenchment is getting you out of comfort zone

So looking up that post-it note I mentioned earlier, I told myself: “Myself,  if you really believe that practicing what you love will make everything fall into place, now is the time to test it”. Please understand that I loved what I do as Office Manager, even with the little career growth opportunity. In hindsight I would’ve started stagnating (scratching at increases year after year).

Loving what you do and doing what you love are two different concepts, the one calls for you to love your job, the other (doing what you love) is answering your to your vocation. That is what this blog is for.  I love sharing experiences,motivating people and perhaps help others learn or think differently about things. I would like to help people see that life is not as complicated as we make it out to be.

Essentially a retrenchment can act as an opportunity to change your trajectory, an opportunity to seek growth, development and a company that values people outside of what they mean to the company (or whatever it is you wish the retrenching company did for you that they didn’t). You’ve lost your anchor, you’re free to explore new things.

So now instead of grabbing at any job that provides a stable income, I invite you to find your fit. Take time to look around and get a job in a field you’d enjoy, even if you thought that you would never succeed by doing what you like or love. Yes, some of us do not have the luxury of being picky but I urge you to look after yourself in the best way you can given the time an opportunities available to you. Move to that country, open that business and apply for that position.

2   Your company does not have your best interest at heart

This is pretty self explanatory but might come as a shock to some. Most companies that are retrenching will not go the extra mile for you. Harsh i know, but no matter how nice your boss is, he will probably not give you more than the bare minimum in terms of notice or severance. The company is in a difficult spot and management has their interest at heart, that is how businesses are (there are exceptions but they are few and far between). Therefore it is very important for you to look out for yourself and stand up for what is yours.

You do this by looking at your employment contract and making sure that the company is acting in accordance to this. Have they adhered to the governing labour law in terms of notice and severance payment? If not, you have to bring it to your immediate superior, HR or IR department’s attention. These contracts and laws are there to protect your best interest so make sure you use them.

Have they formally communicated with you in writing about the reasons for your retrenchment? Do you have a definite date at which your employment expires? You would need this information to start your job search and to claim from salary protection policies. There is a certain process that companies have to follow, these processes are put in place to ensure that your retrenchment is not surrounded with uncertainty and will enable to move on from this job speedily and with the least amount of mess.

3     Get yourself out there ASAP

Whatever your plans are for the future or whether you have no clue where to go, you need to start getting yourself out there before the dust settles. Update your CV’s and on-line profiles to include your current employment. Give your CV a spring clean by taking off irrelevant positions (Like that baby sitting job you had for 6 months in high school. It’s not going to help your case if you’re looking for a career in the banking industry).

Start thinking about issues such as, what salary bracket you fall in now with your extra experience. Maybe you were due to receive an increase soon, had lunch support and a fuel allowance? Add this up so that you know you’re not selling yourself short when you start talking numbers with possible employers.

So now it’s back to the job hunt and swimming in the shark tank with other hungry candidates, awkward interviews and dodgy offices. Yes this is not the optimum situation. What i’d like you take away from this post is you are free to go anywhere, just make sure you look out for you, because it is no one else’s responsibility to make sure that you get the best deal.

Have you been retrenched or fired? What did you learn? Please let me know in the comment section.

Water Your Body: Application Review


So after months of Monday’s trying to remember to drink water and by Tuesday totally forgetting, and then resorting to setting reminders on my phone to drink water (and then forgetting to do that too).

I finally found the solution to my problem.

It’s an application that allows you to track your water (and other beverage) consumption and tells you when you’ve reached your goal for the day. That goal is set by inputting your weight and activity levels.

I like this application because it does its job by reminding you to drink water but not to the extent that it annoys you. You can still ignore the notification and when you pick up your phone it will display a little glass of water in your notification bar as a reminder. The notifications also stop at bed time and start again when you wake up, so be sure to set your sleep and wake times on the application.

The application is available on iTunes and Google Play Store for free.
Which applications do you use on a daily basis? Please leave your response in the comment section.